Getting locked into a good day care situation is a privilege, not a right.  Like all important relationships, investment (mostly time) is needed for a winning situation.  I have been blessed with awesome day care scenarios so far and have picked up on some tidbits: a little window in the psyche of the day care provider.

5 things Your Day Care Provider Wants You to Know:

1)  Regardless of the pricey tuition/fee, the teacher is not your hired help.  Don’t expect them to wash the sippy cup, condone your kid’s bad behavior,  and pretend like they never have a bad day.

2) If your running late, let them know ASAP.  Nothing says ‘your time is not as important as my time’ like showing up late, unexpected.  Of course, in the case of a center, there are steep fines, usually by the minute, for every bit past closing time your cherub sits and waits.  If your going to arrive close to quitting time, call ahead, these people have lives to get too.

3) Given that they deal with children by the multiples every day, they know what their doing, respect their experience.  Provide them the information they ask for, and let them know up front that they have your trust.

4)  The teachers don’t expect perfection in parenting, don’t expect perfection in childcare providing.  So, JR didn’t get cereal along with carrots, it will be okay.   (Kind of like when you bumped the car seat into the wall this morning and JR rammed his foot into the wall, good one Mom.)  It will be okay!

5)  Mind reading doesn’t work, on anyone.  If you drop off the kids in a bad mood, the teachers don’t know if your upset at them or if your undergarments are too tight, if the toddler just screamed in the car, or if you simply haven’t had enough coffee yet.  Don’t take unrelated stresses out on the teacher,  a full day for them awaits, they have enough going on without parental moodiness.  Conversely, a full day for them awaits, if you have questions or concerns, voice them with both efficiency and humility.  Everybody is  too busy for that awkward weirdness that comes with unvoiced fear and unresolved conflict.