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We love, because He first loved us.  This is one of the most striking uses of “because” in the scriptures to me.  We are able to process, receive, give, and participate in love because He first loved us.  He is the starting point, the ultimate indoctrination and initiation.   We because of He.  Dedication, loyalty, perseverance.

Such commitment should be mirrored with our relationships with fellow believers.  Our love for Him should overflow to create love for others to result in an unwavering respect and support for those that believe along with us.  With united hearts we look to Him and our common love for Him effects our attention to one another.   We may not physically see Him, but our love for one another reflects Him, and shines Him into the darkened and dimmed places.  Loving our brothers and sisters is a command fulfilled in our loving God.  Lacking love for one another brings into question one’s love of God.  The two are intertwined.  We can not simultaneously love God and disrespect or not submit to, or not care for fellow believers.  Such approach creates disunity and discord and makes the devil giggle.

John addresses young believers with this warning in the young church and it still rings true today.  Our worship, whether corporate on a Sunday, or singularly on a quiet morning, are not done in a vacuum.  Our love for He in connected for our love for one another.

{Meditations on 1 John 4:19-21}


“If anyone has material possessions and sees a brother or sister in need but has no pity on them, how can the love of God be in that person?”
1 John 3:17
We are designed, by God’s love, to elicit a sympathetic response at acknowledging one another’s needs.

John calls us back to his prevailing theme: we must love one another. Okay, cool, John. I got it. But then, in a surprising move, he points us back to Genesis into a heated sibling rivalry: “do not be like Cain, who belonged to the evil one and murdered his brother” (1 John 3:12). Um, is that a bit of a stretch? If we don’t love one another, then we may be lumped in the same category as the whackadoo that knocked off his brother? This took me a bit to mull over. I needed to revisit Genesis.

Abel had the animals, Cain had the garden. Both chose to provide an offering to God. Good job, both of them! Yet, it was the heart behind the offering that gets God’s attention. God does not look at Cain’s offering favorably. Cain kind of got it wrong. Even though I just referred to Cain as a whackadoo, can I also share that I have been like him, too? I want to do what is right, but I don’t. It looks like I am doing right, but God sees my heart. I give God my something, but it is not my best. Worse, I grow content with it, instead of searching and seeking why. I don’t consider how it affects the fellowship, His Body. (And sometimes, it is just my perspective that needs adjusting. Sometimes what I think is my best and what God says is my best are two different things. In those cases I have to take a deep breath, pray, and go ask someone wiser what they think is up.) Mostly, it is not the physical, tangible offering but the heart behind providing it. Thankfully, God can work with a thing, and God can work with a heart. And He spurs us on. At the heart of studying Cain and Abel (which is fascinating, because I would not have thought to do it until I was reading 1 John), I see good versus evil at the heart level.

Cain messed up. And gets ticked off. Nobody likes to make mistakes. Nobody likes to see how they’ve got it wrong and the person next to them got it right – nobody intent on seeking God’s character. And here is Cain’s very important cross roads – does he seek God’s character? Cain is angry. And God works with him- even in acknowledging that anger. I picture God as a loving father here – “Why are you so angry? Why is your face downcast? If you do what is right, will you not be accepted? But if you do not do what is right, sin is crouching at your door; it desires to have you, but you must rule over it” (Genesis 4:6-7).

Sin seeks to hunker down with us – sometimes in ways more obvious than others – though, often, it is just out of our main line of vision, hiding, thinking we don’t notice.

Sin crouches with us. God rules over it for us. It is our choice each day, every day, as to which option we choose.

Cain chooses to side with sin. I always feel so badly for Abel and heart ache for Eve. How tough to see two sons make two completely different choices. How heart wrenching to see innocent blood shed because another chooses sin. It is saddening and sobering to man, and to God as well. How important love amongst a fellowship is to God! A fellowship without love is like murder to God. Really? I wrestled with this concept for weeks. Is it really that important to Him? His Body is designed to represent Him. John says when that representation is not there, it is the choice to go with sin, to satisfy its desire to have us, and to reject the divine opportunity to rule over it. 1 John 3:15: “Anyone who hates a brother or sister is a murderer, and you know that no murderer has eternal life residing in him.”

Conversely, new life begets new love. And in God, we are promised new life! V. 14 says “We know that we have passed from death to life, because we love each other. Anyone who does not love remains in death.” All fellowships are groups of imperfect people. It’s what we do with that imperfection every day that makes a difference, that changes fellowships. We can get mad and ticked off and make decisions out of anger like Cain. Or we can recognize sin for what it is, take ownership of our decisions, teach our kids to do the same, and choose life. This process intertwines God’s love and character throughout every decision so our every contribution, no matter how small it seems to us, goes to the greater good of representing Him in our fellowships.

John is pretty much blowing my mind here. I don’t think I can ever think of the concepts of love and fellowship the same.

{Meditations on 1 John 3:11-15}

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The disciples in John’s audience were experiencing division, largely caused from within the group. Sometimes the observations, teachings, and call to repentance from an older, more mature Christian is just what a fellowship needs. John says, “hold up, this doesn’t look like the fellowship that Jesus provides for, allows us to have.”

John precedes this section with the reminder that we are to rely on God and walk in the light, and when we do blow it, we are to rely on Jesus as the atoning sacrifice. A true walk with God is marked with true obedience. These points make John’s rebuke on division amongst the brothers and sisters more powerful. When a group is committed to following Jesus together, we see Jesus in them; when they are not, we see Satan in them. John insists that we can’t claim one thing when our behavior towards others indicates something else. We should not be misled, even if we claim light, if our lack of love towards others show dark, then we are in the dark. Conversely, a love for one another shares, sheds, produces light. Love welcomes and grows a fellowship. A fellowship lacking direction and growth may have divisive members among them groping along in the dark, tripping one another up with sinful behavior.

{Meditations on 1 John 2:7-11}

“Anyone who claims to be in the light but hates a brother or sister is still in the darkness.”
1 John 2:9

Disunity, discord, disrespect towards and amongst believers by those who claim to be in the light is offensive to God. This behavior is characteristic of the darkness.